From the Bench to Your Corner | Custody & Parenting Time Advice from a Former Judge

After more than 23 years as a Family Court Judge, I’ve seen every type of custody dispute — from peaceful co-parents to parents who can’t speak without arguing.

Now, as a practicing attorney and mediator, I help families resolve those same issues — with less stress and more understanding. Here’s what I wish every parent knew before walking into court.

Custody Is About the Child — Not the Parents

Custody decisions are always about the best interests of the child, not who “deserves” custody more. Judges look for stability, cooperation, and which parent supports a healthy relationship with the other.

As I often said from the bench:

“The best custody order is the one your child never has to read.”

Cooperation Wins Cases

Parents who demonstrate maturity and communication skills have a significant advantage. Showing the court that you can co-parent effectively — even with differences — speaks louder than any accusation.

Mediation Can Be a Game-Changer

Mediation gives both parents a voice, keeps control in their hands, and avoids years of conflict.
At Kirshblum Taber PC, we use decades of judicial experience to guide parents toward balanced, child-centered parenting plans.

Final Thought

Custody disputes are emotional, but experience matters. Having someone who has decided thousands of cases means having insight into what truly matters to a judge — and how to resolve disputes before they spiral.

Call 516-908-8842 or contact us here to schedule a custody consultation or mediation session.